Conceptualizing the Idea of Threesome Marriage

Ok, before starting let’s make it clear that the idea of threesome marriage is in no sense related to porn or such things. It is just an idea with a non erotic meaning.

Two is a company, three is a crowd.

This is an old saying.
But then why do we approach to a third person when we quarrel? Why do we need a third person to have a change in life? Why is it that people complain about ‘breach of personal space’ when with a partner?
May be we are made like that.  May be it is natural to have quarrels with a person with whom you spend all of your time. And may be that is why there is always a need of a friend or a family member to whom we can approach in times of sorrow.
Well this situation gave me a hypothetical idea of a Threesome Marriage.

The Threesome Marriage

Unlike the traditional marriages, a marriage involving the persons can not take place by negotiation or arrangement. It is purely based on the people having complete understanding and love for each other. Such a marriage is not premised on the norms of sexuality and family planning, and thus it is suitable for heterosexuals and homosexuals alike.
Afterall, what is the purpose of a marriage in an emotional level? I think, it is an ultimate form the love and companionship, where the individuals stop thinking from an individual’s point of view and starts to think about the bond that is shared with the other person. Now it is possible that such bond is established among three persons without any selfishness or negative feeling.
It is here when the possibility of a threesome marriage starts.

What are the possibilities?

Like any traditional marriage, a threesome marriage requires the highest level of faith, trust and love. Because only then the three partners would be able to maintain the bond.
The best thing any such marriage is that it would make the need of a counsellor obsolete. Since the relationship is based on trust and love, any possible troubles between any of the two partners would be taken care with rational discussion among the three. Also, since all three persons are equally attached to each other, there is no possibility of biasness or unjustified suggestions.
This idea could also be practical from a family planning point of view. The love and affection shared among the three would help nurture the child that would be been into the family. With the support of a third person, child care would become really effective. Since the three spouse love each other unconditionally, the issue of being a biological parent would not matter much. Depending upon the nature of the marriage, the family could easily raise two or three or even four children. The structure of the family would allow an easier upbringing for the younger ones, while taking off the extra burden from the parents.
From a more materialistic view, such marriages could be a great opportunity to improve the financial condition. Even with two members of the family working, the financial situation of the family would remain healthy.

Where it all shatters?

The idea of having the persons married might sound plausible, but there are some links that might make it difficult to achieve:

1. Is it possible too find such love and companionship among us today? As mentioned earlier, this idea cannot be realized through arrangements. It is only possible when three persons with such emotional state agree to stay together.
2. The risks that might affect a traditional married couple after catalysed in such arrangement. Such is the risk that with a slightest of chance in the emotional state of any of the partners, the whole family could fall like the pyramid of cards.
3. Human nature might play the demon’s role again. You never know when could a vice or a simple selfish interest arise in us. The moment an individual develops such a selfish interest either for oneself or one’s biological child, marks the end for such marriage.

There might be many other factors that might make such arrangement.

In the End

Centuries back, people used to be shocked if someone told them about homosexuality.  Same way may be this idea might get accepted in the times to come.
Human nature is very adaptive and ever changing. It cannot be predicted.
As of now this idea just came to the mind as a hypothetical construction.
I would be glad if readers could reflect on it and add something to the discussion.

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